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Online Dating Safety Tips: 8 Essential Steps to Successful Internet Dating

Copyright  (C)  2005  Elena  Solomoncommunication seems to be going one way, then
they  probably  have  their  own  agenda.
Compared to the "real world" dating, some
people  view  online  dating  as  less  safe.6.  Giving  away  your  phone  number
Nothing  can  be  further  from  the  truth!When you feel comfortable with the person you
have been emailing to, give them your contact
The opinion probably persists due to the factphone number, preferably your mobile. Do not
that in real life we usually meet people whogive away your work number (or your work
were introduced to us by someone we know andemail address), ever! After all, you do not
trust, or in a transparent situation, such aswant someone to email your boss or phone your
at  work  or  school/university.office, in case the relationship does not
work.
But because no one introduces you to your
online dates, this does not mean online7.  Meeting  face  to  face
dating  is  unsafe  -  quite  the  opposite!
After you have emailed one another, and
In fact, meeting someone online is much safertalked on the phone a few times, it's time to
than meeting someone at your local bar: youmeet face to face. If people are happy to
cannot get hurt by sitting in front of yourcommunicate with you online but don't want to
computer.use the phone or meet you in person, this
might be due to the fact that they have
All you need to do to make online dating workmisrepresented themselves. Real, honest
for you is to exercise some caution. Youpeople that seek love and partnership don't
would not let a stranger into your home andwant never-ending virtual courtship; they
your private life, without getting to knowwant  the  real  thing.
them first, would you? Don't do it online,
either.Only meet in a public place for the first
date, and preferably, set up a time limit for
Here are 8 essential steps that will help youthe date. For example, you can say you only
make your online dating experience secure andhave half an hour before a business
rewarding.appointment; this will help if the date does
not go as you hoped for. A 'coffee date' is a
1.  Anonymous  Datingsafe bet. If you are a woman, never go to
unknown places; instead, suggest your own
It's a great advantage that contacts enteredvariant of a place for the meeting, where
through an online dating site are anonymous,service personnel knows you, at least
so you can maintain your privacy, but therevisually. If a man is decent, he will honor
are some drawbacks, too - some people mightyour  request.
not be what they say they are. While there
are not many people like this, they do exist.Tell someone that you have a date with a
Most dating sites don't screen their members.person you have met online; it can be your
You should exercise caution and common sensemother or a sibling, a person, who will not
in  your  communication  with  other members.judge you. If you don't feel like telling
anyone, make a note about the person you are
2.  Overseas  Contactsmeeting and how you got to know him/her, and
place it where this information can be found.
Be especially careful in communication with
members from other countries than your own.Have your own transport to get home from the
Some people might try to use your limitedplace of the meeting; better still, have a
knowledge of those countries to takefriend to fetch you. Never allow your date to
advantage of you. Please be advised to nevertake you home, even if something is wrong
wire any finance on request of overseaswith your car. Phone a friend or call a taxi
members, whether to help in an emergency orinstead. Make sure you are not followed when
travel arrangements. If you intend to meetleaving the place of the meeting - especially
overseas members, remember to consult yourif  no  one  has  shown  up.
immigration authorities first, and choose an
appropriate  option.When you meet your date, don't jump to
conclusions straight away. You might
3.  Getting  to  know  each  otherunintentionally create an image in your mind,
which is different from the real person; this
Never give your personally identifiableis not their fault; give them a chance. It's
information to anyone you do not know well.quite common to feel awkward at first; simply
Use the website's anonymous messaging systemrelax and try not to concentrate on the
for the first contacts. Ask many questionsoutcome: doesn't matter if they like you or
and  listen  to  their  answers:not, you are still enjoying the date. If you
need to concentrate on something, concentrate
·  Do  they  answer the questions you ask?on having fun! If this helps, remember that
they are also nervous and they can only hope
·  Does  their  story  seem  credible?you  will  like  them.
· Don't they avoid certain questions, suchSmile! Nothing helps to break the ice better
as their marital situation, who they livethan friendliness and openness. Talk about
with  etc?something that you have shared in your last
emails, so that they feel you are indeed the
· Aren't they too sweet and seem to agreesame person they have been talking to for a
with  everything  you  say?while.
Those are the red flags that should make youBut still, use caution. Have your mobile
cautious.phone with you. Don't leave your drink
unattended. If you have to leave the table,
4.  Sending  photosorder  a  fresh  drink  on  your  return.
It is the old truth that the picture is worthPay for yourself. If you decided to never
a thousand words. Ask the people you aremeet this person again, do not tell them
writing to for their photos and send themabout it on the date. Tell about it in an
yours. If they never ask for your photos,email. If the person asks how the date was,
this is strange because everyone wants totell them: 'Great! I will email you tonight'.
know how the person they are dating looksIt's not easy to face rejection, so make it
like! Don't send old photos or photos whereas  polite  and  nice,  as  you  can.
you don't look like your real self: once you
meet in real life, the picture should match8.  Advancing  your  relationship
the person behind it, or they will feel
disappointed. But it does not mean you cannotIf you enjoyed the first date, keep seeing
send pictures that present you in the bestone another for a while before moving
way: send a photo of yourself with a happyfurther. Don't progress too fast; you must
smile; it's always a winner! When your datesreally get to know the person before deciding
look at your photos, they try to figure outto have a relationship of any kind. If the
what type of person you are: if you lookperson shares with you a land-line phone
grumpy, they will think you are grumpy. Ifnumber, presents a business card etc, those
you look happy and easygoing, this, too, isare good signs: they trust you and want to
what they will think of you. If you do notcontinue the relationship. It's now up to you
have recent photos, ask a friend with ato decide, whether to accept their invitation
digital camera to take some pictures of you.or  not.
Choose the best shots only and erase the ones
you don't like. Ask your correspondents howMost of all - HAVE FUN, because this is what
recent the photos are they sent you to avoidit's all about. Some people will not be what
a  possible  disappointment.you are looking for, and you cannot be right
for everyone. But if you persist, you will be
5.  Giving  away  your  email  addressdoing better and better. It takes loads of
rubble to find gold. Remember that each
When you feel comfortable with yourencounter is a learning experience that can
communication, you can give them yourmake  you  more  successful.
personal email address. Register a separate
email account for this purpose, and only useYou may be yet another person to find your
it for your personal correspondence. Ifsoul mate through an online dating site -
something goes wrong in your relationships,just like thousands of other people before
you can always close down this account andyou!
open a new one. Keep asking questions and
discuss different things. If all yourHappy dating!



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